Nearly a year ago since I saw my Mum!

Next month it will be ONE WHOLE year since I've seen my mum.  Some of you know that I'm very close to my mum and she lives over 700km away from me down at the South Coast of South Africa.  I miss her every day and we talk on the phone at least once or twice a week.  Click HERE to find out when she visited last year.

So much has happened since then...

My dad had a major car accident where he suffered a bad head and knee injury and took forever to recover.  My mum landed up in hospital with pneumonia and has been suffering with her back ever since.  She called me on Thursday last week to say she'd been back to the doctor thinking it was just her normal arthritis in her back.  The doc put her on anti inflamatory and pain meds for a week but nothing improvied so she went back and he ordered x-rays.

Well, the xrays came back and my mum's been diagnosed with severe osteoperosis in her back and her vertabrae have collapsed and are crumbling.  Some of the vertabrae are actually fractured from leaning on one another for so long.  She needs to have a MRI done to figure out in detail the damage and then she'll have to have Vertebroplasty surgergy.

The ortheopedic specialist said that her spine is so deteriorated that they only thing they can do for her at this stage is injection acrylic cement into her vertabrae so that they can realign her vertabrae and alleviate her chronic pain she has constantly. Sounds painful and quite drastic!

I'm terrified! 

I want to be there for her when she has the surgery.  She conceals her pain well and always wants to appear strong and "fine" but I want to be there to help her.  This is going to be huge for her and a long recovery. I know my mum is strong but she's a tiny wee woman and looks so frail.  She hates taking any kind of medication because it makes her throw up and she can't afford to throw up because she's trying so hard to put on weight.  Its a vicious cycle.

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Yet Another Update

Mum has been diagnosed with diabetes that she could probably control with her diet at this stage.  No insulin is needed yet but the Dietician has been around to give my mum an Eating Plan to stick to.  They want to keep her in to get her sugar levels balanced and under control and then she can go home.  Oh crikey, I just wish I could be there to give her a big cuddle and kiss...


Riaan's hearing has been going on all day!  He is emotionally and physically exhausted.  They've hauled out the Big Guns and are trying to nail him on every tiny little thing that has happened during the 7 months that he's been with the firm.  Its ridiculous...surely attacking his integrity is not legal?  Best of all, none of this was even discussed with him first, he was just slapped with a Gross Misconduct Disciplinary Hearing.  I'm so angry with them.  Gross Misconduct is serious and all the charges against him certainly cannot be categoriesed as GM.  He is representing himself and he surely isn't a Lawyer.  I hope he said enough to save his job to at least bide us time so that he can find other work.  If not,  it will be off to the CCMA for an Appeal.  Final closing statements and mitigating circumstances will be on Monday *sigh*...and the saga continues for us all...
 
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My Heart is Sore!

My mum left to go back to the south coast last night after spending two weeks with my sister and two weekends in a row with me. It was so wonderful to have her stay with us and be part of our wee family, even if it was only for a couple of days. She is brilliant with the children and she has a wisdom and calm about her that makes me feel safe and secure. She has endless patience and she is so easy to talk to. She has such inner strength and stays positive no matter what. I think her relationship with God has something to do with that.

I normally cry when my mum leaves to go home but it doesn’t last too long because I know I’ll see her again soon but last night I was really sobbing. Luckily my Boerewors was there to hold me tight while the tears trickled down my cheeks.

You would think that it would get easier to say goodbye after her being living down in the south coast for ten years but, it doesn’t. It gets harder and I think its getting harder because I see my mum is getting older and I realise she’s not going to be around forever. I guess I feel that I never know when I’m going to see her again and the fact that I can’t just “pop in” when I need her or miss her. I want to be there for HER. She’s been there for me no matter what and now that she’s getting older she can’t do everything she used to be able to – physically I mean. She has arthritis in her back and wrists and I can see its sore but she tries to hide it well and carry on regardless. I wish I could help her out and take care of her like she’s done for me all these years. My mum has had a rough life and been to hell and back moving her family to a new country, feeling alone in a new country and now alone in her marriage.

The longing feeling is still with me today even though I have called my mum on the phone to make sure she got home okay…I still feel empty and sad.

She's my best friend and the best and most special mum in the world!!!

I love you!
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